Reframing Negative Thoughts – How to Shift Out of a Stress Response

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Written By Dr. McKenzy

Reframing your thoughts isn’t about ignoring the negative—it’s about creating space for new perspectives that bring clarity and calm.

Why Do Negative Thoughts Feel Impossible to Shake?

You’re stuck in a loop of what-ifs, worst-case scenarios, and self-doubt. No matter how much you try to be positive, the negative thoughts keep creeping in. Maybe you tell yourself to just stop thinking that way, but somehow, the worries still linger.

But what if negative thinking isn’t just a mindset issue? What if it’s actually a stress response?

When your nervous system perceives stress or danger—whether it’s a real threat or just a challenging situation—it defaults to protective thinking patterns. These thoughts aren’t random; they’re your brain’s way of keeping you safe. The problem? These patterns are often negative, rigid, and fear-based, making it feel impossible to shift out of them.

The good news? You can break the cycle. And the key isn’t to force yourself to "think positive"—it’s to work with your brain and body, not against them.

Why Stress Triggers Negative Thinking

Your Brain is Wired for Survival, Not Happiness

Your brain’s #1 job is to keep you safe, not necessarily to keep you happy. This is why it has a built-in negativity bias—meaning it naturally pays more attention to potential threats than to neutral or positive experiences.

This was great for survival when humans needed to stay hyper-aware of dangers like predators or food shortages. But in today’s world, where most of our stressors are more psychological than physical, this survival wiring can backfire—leading to cycles of overthinking, anxiety, and worst-case-scenario thinking.

Read More: Regulate Your Nervous System Through Mindfulness Journaling | 10 Effective Prompts

Fight, Flight, Freeze… or Overanalyze?

When your nervous system perceives a threat, it prepares you to fight, flee, or freeze. But what happens when there’s no immediate action to take—when the “threat” is an upcoming work presentation, a difficult conversation, or an unresolved worry?

For many people, the brain defaults to another coping mechanism: overanalyzing. It loops through the same thoughts over and over, trying to “solve” the problem. But instead of finding a solution, this usually just reinforces stress and makes the thoughts feel even more overwhelming.

Read More: What is the Sympathetic Fight or Flight Response?

Rigid Thinking = A Sign of Dysregulation

When stress is high, your brain operates in black-and-white thinking mode—you may find yourself catastrophizing, assuming the worst, or believing that one mistake defines everything.

This happens because stress temporarily shuts down the part of your brain responsible for flexibility and perspective. Instead of seeing the full picture, you get stuck in a tunnel vision of fear and worry. The key to breaking free? Introduce flexibility and safety back into your nervous system.

Read More: 10 Common Signs You’re Dysregulated

3 Simple Ways to Reframe Negative Thoughts & Shift Your Stress Response

Reframing your thoughts isn’t about “thinking positive” or denying real concerns—it’s about creating more space for possibility, flexibility, and ease.

1. Use “What If… But” to Break Catastrophic Thinking

Instead of: “What if everything goes wrong?”
Try: “What if this is challenging… but I’ll figure it out?”

The word "but" introduces a counterbalance, helping your brain shift from an all-or-nothing fear response to a more grounded, realistic perspective.

2. Try the “Zoom Out” Perspective Shift

When you're caught in a spiral, ask yourself:

  • Will this matter in a week?

  • In a month?

  • In a year?

Stress shrinks your perspective, making small problems feel much bigger than they really are. By consciously zooming out, you signal to your nervous system that this moment is temporary—and that you don’t need to stay in high alert mode.

3. Use Bilateral Stimulation to Interrupt the Thought Loop

Negative thoughts feel “stuck” because they loop in the same neural pathways over and over. One way to break the cycle? Engage both sides of your brain.

Try this:

  • Gently tap alternately on your legs.

  • Cross your arms and tap your shoulders in an alternating rhythm.

  • Slowly move your eyes from left to right while focusing on a neutral object in the distance.

These movements activate both hemispheres of your brain, helping to disrupt repetitive thoughts and bring you back to the present moment.

You Can Rewire Your Mindset—One Shift at a Time

Negative thinking isn’t who you are—it’s a nervous system state that can be rewired. Instead of fighting your thoughts, focus on small, consistent shifts that signal safety and flexibility to your brain.

You don’t have to do this alone. If you’re looking for tools, support, and a community that understands, join us inside our free Discord community—a space for learning, connection, and nervous system regulation strategies that actually work. We’d love to have you.

Dr. McKenzy
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